Why do we trash and stash our joy in dark secret places when the rest of the world seems to be going down? Why do we feel unworthy to experience anything good when the rest of the world is suffering?
Tag Archives: Happiness
6 Signs You Need a Man Break
Vacations and ManCations change our perspective, but most of us are afraid to take them. Why? Because we might miss out on something while we’re away. Psychologists agree: Taking a break from life’s routine is as important as a good night’s sleep. Having time to reflect and reevaluate allows us to return to life refreshed […]
Autumn Equinox- Using the Season to Beat Self-Sabotage
Traditionally Autumn is a time of abundant color, pumpkins and squash, heartier harvest meals, and cozy sweaters, yet too often we forget that it’s also a time of fertile transition.
How to Stop Worrying.
Experiencing a dark bout of worry in the middle of the night or while trying to relax is something most of us are no stranger to. Here’s how to get yourself out of it and back to peace again.
How to Shake a Bad Mood in 4 Steps.
Life is going to happen, but staying in a bad mood is optional. Here’s how to change a bad mood fast.
The Anti-Bucket List for Women.
Maybe the second half isn’t so much about what we want to do, but what we won’t do anymore.
To hell with their way, I’m doing it MY way.
There was never an off switch, there was always something more to do, and I never felt satisfied with a job well done because there were always a zillion more things to get done.
Dear Supposed to, Should Be and Maybe Not – Bite Me.
You found us right after college, chased us through our careers, into our relationships, and finally pinned us down after the fall.
Surprisingly Simple Self-Care Strategies.
Work, clean, workout, kids, career, groceries, spouses, bills, friends, commitments, and repeat.
Whether we’re married or single, working or in school, there just doesn’t seem to be much time for self-care anymore.
Those tiny quiet moments we used to enjoy at stop lights, commuting on trains, and waiting for appointments are gone and now replaced with
Dancing on the Ashes of Your Rage.
Expressed in holy ways it transforms and heals.
My SiriusXM Radio Interview on Happiness with John Fugelsang.
Categories: Blog, Read, Watch/Listen
There are key differences between happy people and unhappy people. Here are habits we can all practice daily and when times get tough.
Having it All Requires Despair, Disillusionment and Desire.
What I’m about to share with you is the antithesis of everything we’re taught. As I opened one manhole of dark memories, another would appear before my eyes and I dove in willingly- I had nothing to lose because I was already lost.
3 Must Do’s Before the Clock Strikes Midnight.
Forget new year’s resolutions! Here are 3 things to launch you into the new year with grace.
Today- the shortest day of the year heralds the return of light here in the northern hemisphere. Can you feel it? Regardless of where you are, today’s daylight is fleeting and the dark stillness of winter is calling. Even as we light our candles and Christmas lights to offset the darkness, springtime still feels eons away; yet tomorrow the […]
A Surprising Mantra for Inner Peace: I Don’t Care.
I don’t care? Stay with me here… This isn’t about giving up on caring for others, the planet, or what really matters, it’s about something entirely different. We don’t have to dig deep to hear of the unfolding of the feminine inside all of us. Feminine as in balanced feminine, not femme fatale weak and helpless. For me? I got […]
Removing Digital Clutter
Let’s talk about the overwhelming, exhausting amount of digital clutter you have in your life. Remember when you first got mail? It was fun and exciting to see who sent mail every morning wasn’t it? Think Meg Ryan in Sleepless in Seattle- email was exciting, even romantic. And now? (sound of record scratching!) It’s exhausting. Most […]
7 Habits of Highly Unhappy People – Tamara Star
I often teach about happiness and what has become exceedingly clear is this: there are 7 qualities chronically unhappy people have mastered. According to Psychology Today, University of California researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky states: “40% of our of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change”. If this is true and it is, there’s […]
Self-Care in the Time of Chaos.
Work, clean, workout, kids, career, groceries, spouses, bills, friends, commitments, and repeat. Whether you’re married or single, there just isn’t much time for self-care anymore is there? Those tiny quiet moments we used to enjoy at stop lights, commuting on trains, and waiting for appointments are gone and now replaced with quick glimpses of emails, […]
If You’re Trying to Change, Remember This.
Change isn’t easy, if it were we wouldn’t have to try, we’d just do.
Changing is like shaking up one of those jars filled with sand and water.
8 Simple Ways Happy Couples Stay Happy.
Love is obviously a hot and tricky topic, and while we can all agree good love takes time and effort, love seems to fall apart quickly when the ball is dropped and laziness creeps in.
Here are eight things happy couples do to keep this from happening:
How to Cure Road Rage Forever.
If compassion is our key to peace, I believe familiarity- whether real or perceived- breeds enough patience to find that key.
How to Age Well Emotionally.
Do you feel like you’ve lost your youthful glow? Is your life becoming routine and well- just blah? You’re not alone. American author and humorist Mark Twain once wrote: “Wrinkles merely mark where smiles have been”. That’s all fine and dandy, but in today’s world, wrinkling is only one sign of youth fading away from our […]
Falling Apart to Beat Self Sabotage.
I’m sitting here in front of a fire much like this one with a laptop upon my lap, realizing we’re within a few hours of Autumn Equinox here in the Northern Hemisphere – a time of transition. Traditionally Autumn is a time of abundant color, pumpkins and squash, heartier harvest meals, and cozy sweaters; yet […]
Change One Thing, Change Everything.
When we experience the freedom that arrives and the burst of energy that returns, we no longer question the effect every area of our life has on all aspects of our happiness. We are not divided beings. We’re whole and we’re all connected.
How to Ground Yourself and Disconnect from Crazy.
Can you feel it lately? It’s intense and most of us are wondering what the hell is going on. Here’s how to ground yourself and cope.
Summer’s Not Over: How to Squeeze Out a Bit More Fun.
Do you always end summers with regrets of what you didn’t do? Don’t dispair- even though we’ve passed the start of the school season, summer’s not over just yet. We might be heading full steam ahead towards the Autumn equinox, but don’t despair, there’s still time to squeeze a little more juice out of the […]
Why the Law of SUBTraction Trumps the Law of Attraction Every Time.
We’re told the law of attraction is key to getting everything we want in life, but here’s a dirty little secret only a few people know: the law of SUBtraction is where it’s at.
Why it Takes Balls to Be Happy.
You say you want happiness. We all do. But the truth is, you’re scared shitless of it. Completely bat shit crazy of having it because lo and behold if you get it, if you experience it and get used to experiencing it, you just might lose it. Here’s a little 411 for you: so am I, and so is everyone.
There Must Be… 50 Ways to Leave Your Stress.
I don’t need to tell you that stress is a killer, but I do need to share with you that like happiness, stress is a choice. How we respond to any situation in life is dictated by our habits and our beliefs. Here are 50 ways to leave your stress, and while none involve getting […]
How to Lose the Woman You Love…For Good.
Unfortunately, too many of us make a brief effort and then go on auto pilot forgetting that it takes consistent practice to master the art of love; yet when we do make the effort, we create a masterpiece that never grows boring to look at.
10 Ways to Stay Well this Winter~plus a bonus tip.
Well, it’s undeniable that winter is looming. Days are growing shorter and the dark nights have grown longer.
Here are 10 ways to stay well this winter.
How to Ritualistically Let Go and Start Over For This New Year.
Ahh, 365 days are behind us and we’re standing on the threshold of a fresh start aren’t we? It’s human nature to want to clear the slate and start over on the new year, as we all long to leave behind what no longer works, what no longer serves us, and instead set lofty goals […]
Energy Vampires- How to Escape.
Being a a loving compassionate person has nothing to do with slumming it vibrationally.
8 Ways We Drain the Juice Out of Love.
There are a zillion books on love — obviously a hot and tricky topic– and while I agree that good love takes time and effort, I also know that love falls apart because we drop the ball in 8 common ways.