Well, it’s been a few years since I’ve written anything and I owe you a huge apology. This isn’t clickbait to get you to read, it’s the truth I’m really sorry.
So why did I stop writing?
I had a major wake-up call. I’m talking M A J O R and it scared me.
We are raped, abused, neglected, victimized, discriminated against and passed over for promotions, and yet… the most painful wound women still have bleeding isn’t caused by men, this particularly painful festering wound is caused by something far more surprising – the brutality of women holding women down. It seems now trendy to hail to the call of women rising […]
There are dark days when I feel everything so deeply that I wonder if emotions have ambushed my brain and bypassed any rationality left in my body. I don’t understand what’s happening in the world and feel fear, sadness, even a deep blackness of despair. Sadness comes over me like a heavy weight of grief […]
Psst! Come here little one, I’ve got some candy for you.TEST Don’t worry, it’s free and I can get you as much as you’d like. What? You don’t want to take candy from a stranger? I’m no stranger, I’m your mirror. Come closer, have a taste, you’ll like it, I promise. What’s it called? […]
If I read (or write), one more 10 steps to, 5 signs that, or 3 traits of (fill in the blank) sort of self-help, my patience will pop. The self-help industry is built upon perceived mass weakness and the illusion that we’re broken pieces of human parts needing to be fixed. That’s the first lie. None of us are […]
Today, lazy lovers argue that romance is dead, a mere fake ploy to seduce and an act that holds no weight in the world of love. My head hurts from shaking it no. Thinking like this is simply a poor excuse to drop the ball. My earliest memory of romance was my grandfather reaching his farm […]
After posting a heartfelt giddy rant of joy on my Facebook page, shame slowly crept in and I found myself getting out of bed hours later to delete it. My gratitude birthed after a long-awaited move to open space sprawling along the mountains where bald eagles circle and coyotes run wild. As my heart filled […]
Want to know what it is? It’s the power of the true feminine. Sadly, none of us have really been taught how to tap it. Instead, taping our breasts flat is what we’ve been ultimately taught. Of course, it’s not natural, but if you’re in this world as a woman, you’re required to fit […]
Vacations and ManCations change our perspective, but most of us are afraid to take them. Why? Because we might miss out on something while we’re away. Psychologists agree: Taking a break from life’s routine is as important as a good night’s sleep. Having time to reflect and reevaluate allows us to return to life […]
I’m sitting here in front of a fire much like the one above with a laptop upon my lap, realizing we’re within a few hours of Autumn Equinox here in the Northern Hemisphere—a time of transition. Traditionally Autumn is a time of abundant color, pumpkins and squash, heartier harvest meals, and cozy sweaters, yet too often we […]
August. It’s hot and the summer flower pots look tired. While I’m not ready for cold weather, I am ready for a shift away from this heat and this energy. As the moon came through my window last night, I remembered another 28 days had passed. Change is coming. For three days prior and three […]
The antidote to this exhaustion isn’t a massage, a nap, nor vacation. It isn’t going to bed early or resisting the call of your handheld devices. It’s literally
In a culture known for selling fast, nutritionally empty food, our society is filled with plenty of empty headed preaching evangelist’s looking for hungry followers, and there’s more than enough of us willing to pull up a cafeteria tray and listen.
Whether you experienced the original wound of poor mothering or the first hints of wounding that happened way back in grade school, it seems we’ve all been touched by the hurt of another female.Some of us heal, while others of us remain forever hurt inside — scared to once again trust.
It doesn’t take a negative personality to wonder about the state of our world.Mass killings, natural disasters, war, political upheavals and closer to home—divorce rates, illness and financial devastation shake upeven the most balanced individual.The constant headlines of murders and job loss, wars and global warming, natural disasters and economic crisis only intensify the feeling of being […]
Experiencing a dark bout of worry in the middle of the night or while trying to relax is something most of us are no stranger to. Here’s how to get yourself out of it and back to peace again.
Have you ever experienced your day and your mood getting ambushed by circumstances outside your control?
Life is going to happen, but staying in a bad mood is optional. Here’s how to change a bad mood fast.
Morning smoothies are easy on the go nutritional breakfast options, but just like energy bars, not all smoothies are alike.
Maybe the second half isn’t so much about what we want to do, but what we won’t do anymore.
There was never an off switch, there was always something more to do, and I never felt satisfied with a job well done because there were always a zillion more things to get done.
There’s an old saying: What you see is what you get. Science has now proven that
You found us right after college, chased us through our careers, into our relationships, and finally pinned us down after the fall.
Work, clean, workout, kids, career, groceries, spouses, bills, friends, commitments, and repeat.
Whether we’re married or single, working or in school, there just doesn’t seem to be much time for self-care anymore . . .
Today was an ass kicker sort of a day. The accidentally get your foot stuck in a stirrup and be dragged face down in the horse stall sort of day. Fears are up, stress is off the charts, and many of us are left feeling as though it’s time to throw in the towel. Life […]
Expressed in holy ways it transforms and heals.
He’s attractive, kind, nice and giving, so what’s the problem? Why do we shut down sexually and put him in the friend zone?
There are key differences between happy people and unhappy people. Here are habits we can all practice daily and when times get tough.
What I’m about to share with you is the antithesis of everything we’re taught. As I opened one manhole of dark memories, another would appear before my eyes and I dove in willingly- I had nothing to lose because I was already lost.
Forget new year’s resolutions! Here are 3 things to launch you into the new year with grace.
Today- the shortest day of the year heralds the return of light here in the northern hemisphere. Can you feel it? Regardless of where you are, today’s daylight is fleeting and the dark stillness of winter is calling. Even as we light our candles and Christmas lights to offset the darkness, springtime still feels eons away; yet tomorrow the […]
I don’t care? Stay with me here… This isn’t about giving up on caring for others, the planet, or what really matters, it’s about something entirely different. We don’t have to dig deep to hear of the unfolding of the feminine inside all of us. Feminine as in balanced feminine, not femme fatale weak and helpless. For me? I got […]
The holidays are upon us and if we’re not careful, so is burnout. Foods we don’t usually eat, later nights than usual, holiday expectations, family dynamics and the financial stress of gift buying can send even the strongest person right over the edge. It’s no surprise so many of us start the new year feeling exhausted […]
Let’s talk about the overwhelming, exhausting amount of digital clutter you have in your life. Remember when you first got mail? It was fun and exciting to see who sent mail every morning wasn’t it? Think Meg Ryan in Sleepless in Seattle- email was exciting, even romantic. And now? (sound of record scratching!) It’s exhausting. Most […]
I often teach about happiness and what has become exceedingly clear is this: there are 7 qualities chronically unhappy people have mastered. According to Psychology Today, University of California researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky states: “40% of our of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change”. If this is true and it is, there’s […]
Work, clean, workout, kids, career, groceries, spouses, bills, friends, commitments, and repeat. Whether you’re married or single, there just isn’t much time for self-care anymore is there? Those tiny quiet moments we used to enjoy at stop lights, commuting on trains, and waiting for appointments are gone and now replaced with quick glimpses of emails, […]
Change isn’t easy, if it were we wouldn’t have to try, we’d just do.
Changing is like shaking up one of those jars filled with sand and water.
Love is obviously a hot and tricky topic, and while we can all agree good love takes time and effort, love seems to fall apart quickly when the ball is dropped and laziness creeps in . .
If compassion is our key to peace, I believe familiarity- whether real or perceived- breeds enough patience to find that key.
Do you feel like you’ve lost your youthful glow? Is your life becoming routine and well- just blah? You’re not alone. American author and humorist Mark Twain once wrote: “Wrinkles merely mark where smiles have been”. That’s all fine and dandy, but in today’s world, wrinkling is only one sign of youth fading away from our […]
I’m sitting here in front of a fire much like this one with a laptop upon my lap, realizing we’re within a few hours of Autumn Equinox here in the Northern Hemisphere – a time of transition. Traditionally Autumn is a time of abundant color, pumpkins and squash, heartier harvest meals, and cozy sweaters; […]
When we experience the freedom that arrives and the burst of energy that returns, we no longer question the effect every area of our life has on all aspects of our happiness. We are not divided beings. We’re whole and we’re all connected.
Can you feel it lately? It’s intense and most of us are wondering what the hell is going on. Here’s how to ground yourself and cope.
Do you always end summers with regrets of what you didn’t do? Don’t dispair- even though we’ve passed the start of the school season, summer’s not over just yet. We might be heading full steam ahead towards the Autumn equinox, but don’t despair, there’s still time to squeeze a little more juice out of the […]
We’re told the law of attraction is key to getting everything we want in life, but here’s a dirty little secret only a few people know: the law of SUBtraction is where it’s at.
You say you want happiness. We all do. But the truth is, you’re scared shitless of it. Completely bat shit crazy of having it because lo and behold if you get it, if you experience it and get used to experiencing it, you just might lose it . . .
Who couldn’t use a little more money flow in life? If you want to get things moving in your money arena, decluttering, organizing and clearing out the old are my favorite Feng Shui tips for creating more abundance in life. What is Feng Shui? Feng Shui is the 5,000 year old Asian art of placement. […]
I don’t need to tell you that stress is a killer, but I do need to share with you that like happiness, stress is a choice. How we respond to any situation in life is dictated by our habits and our beliefs. Here are 50 ways to leave your stress, and while none […]
Unfortunately, too many of us make a brief effort and then go on auto pilot forgetting that it takes consistent practice to master the art of love; yet when we do make the effort, we create a masterpiece that never grows boring to look at . . .
Well, it’s undeniable that winter is looming. Days are growing shorter and the dark nights have grown longer.
Here are 10 ways to stay well this winter.
It’s been said that if you carry old bricks from your past relationship into your new one, you will build the same house that fell before.
Asian cultures have appreciated something called Wabi Sabi for centuries. Wabi Sabi is the beauty of imperfect perfection. Nothing lasts, nothing is finished and nothing is perfect. Think of the slightly irregular handmade pottery bowl, or the flower arrangement with one tulip drooping. Right now as I lay on the floor surrounded by pillows, dog […]
Ahh, 365 days are behind us and we’re standing on the threshold of a fresh start aren’t we? It’s human nature to want to clear the slate and start over on the new year, as we all long to leave behind what no longer works, what no longer serves us, and instead set lofty goals […]
Being a a loving compassionate person has nothing to do with slumming it vibrationally.
There are a zillion books on love — obviously a hot and tricky topic– and while I agree that good love takes time and effort, I also know that love falls apart because we drop the ball in 8 common ways.
Making use of this introspective dark time in a fast moving world is what maximizes the fertility of the season. When we take care of ourselves through the winter months and take note of nature’s dormant period, we emerge into the springtime recharged and refreshed rather than drained, bored, and, well, larger than before.
Sometimes life blows up doesn’t it? 7 years ago my own life did and I survived. I make it a rule to never take advice from someone who hasn’t been there, so I’ll share with you what happened, and then I’ll share how I got through my own personal tunnel of hell. In a 30 […]
The way we do anything is the way we do everything. Holding on to just in case is lack energy and slows the flow of your life. Clearing out and trusting releases stuck energy and releases excess weight. I’ve seen it time and time again.
When people reminded me that time heals all wounds and this too shall pass after my break up, I wanted to kick them in the teeth. If you’re experiencing the I-can’t-get-out-of-bed heartache or the I’ll-never-feel-like-me-again heart break, you know what I’m talking about. At this point, if it’s truly over, you’re going to need to […]
Let’s face it, we’ve all feared that we’re going to mess up, not be liked, or even be rejected at times, and in order to compensate we fake it until we make it don’t we? The problem is: while we might think we’re managing or hiding our insecurities most of the time, the people around […]
I hear women question openly: What’s wrong with men? Why can’t they shoot straight? Why can’t they communicate?
Most of us spend our days seeking happiness as if happiness were a destination or golden prize at the end of long journey. I believe happiness isn’t something to achieve or a reward for a life well lived ~I believe happiness is a point of view. And it’s an interesting point of view isn’t it? […]
Pleasure is a muscle that must be formed and exercised to become habitual. When we become pleasure seeking people creating pleasure and joy in the ordinary~ life becomes extraordinary.
I realized that after times of stress we become conditioned to look for what’s wrong instead of what’s right, and if we don’t stop ourselves, this pattern of thinking becomes habit and sadly, this habit becomes our life.
I heard the dispatcher announce “all rescue units seek higher ground, the city of Boulder is impassable”, and at that point went into full blown panic. Sirens were going off, the night was pitch black and I could hear the rushing water going past my street and behind my house as the usual small trickle of a creek bed had risen past its banks and created a 200 yard raging river.
Is it healthy to love unconditionally? Compassion for yourself and unconditional love go hand in hand. — All spiritual teachers have pointed to unconditional love as the path to freedom; yet too often we mix up unconditional love with abusive love. Compassion for yourself and unconditional love go hand in hand. In its healthiest […]
It may sound crazy, but the amazing brain with its many functions and miracles, really does dictate your life experience.
Via Elephant Journal They say there’s no such thing as a bad yoga class, but there certainly are dangerous ones. As a yogi, I look at each class as an opportunity to actually “practice” my yoga. This means if I don’t love the teacher, the music, the flow or the style, I remind myself that yoga […]
Why Are We So Bored When We Get What We Want?
Her huge head and fierce brown eyes were less than an arm’s length away and I thought to myself: “seriously? THIS is how I’m going to die?”
Her snorts were drowned out by my screams as I felt the wind from her hooves skimming the small space between us while pinned against that front door, no where to escape.
11 Ways to emotionally thrive in this ever changing fast paced world.
Feng Shui for attracting love. The most important corner of your home and any room is the relationship corner.
When we enhance the positive of our homes and limit the negative, this energy can flow unrestrained in harmonious ways. Health, money and love come easier and our homes suddenly feel like the refuge from the world they were meant to be.
You might be surprised. Often we are to blame for our own bad relationship. Here’s how to avoid it.
Your mantra while doing this? “If I don’t use it, I’m going to lose it. I’m not going to keep things just in case.
I trust the universe will provide me with what I need when I need it. There is someone out there that needs this more than me and will use this rather than my keeping it just in case.”
This post is the other side of the coin, and no I’m not going to shame anyone. I vote for peace between the sexes by honoring our differences. I can’t possibly speak for all women but I can tell you, most of us are tired of being labeled.
Ah a new season! And it seems right now is the time to hit the universal reset button for new beginnings and fresh starts. If you’re not wanting to hire a coach or sign up for a life makeover, keep reading. I’m going to show you how to take charge of your own life, and get your own do over.
When Life Blows Up. 15 years ago, mine did, and I survived. I make it a rule to never take advice from someone who hasn’t been there, so I’ll share with you what happened, and then I’ll share how I got through my own personal tunnel of hell. In a 30-day period I lost it […]
How to help when disasters strike. The answer may surprise you.
In a society that seems to have given up on long term relationships, we’ve lost our desire to make things last. Most of us consider our current love to be Mr or Mrs right Now versus Mr or Mrs right, and dispose of the relationship in the first sign of irritation. Patience has been groomed […]
Even though we celebrate the arrival of summertime, it’s easy to lose our balance as well as our tempers under the fiery summer heat. Here are my top tips to stay cool this season. Put your hands in the earth and your body on it. Digging in the dirt, planting flowers and/or gardening relaxes your […]
Let me say there’s absolutely no way I would trade places with our men. We may get the short end of the aging stick, but our men definitely have it far harder these days when it comes to dating. Show up masculine and strong, and we wish you were more emotional and vulnerable. Show up […]
Polite conversation, (let’s admit) is boring. We spend our days going about our business, waving at neighbors, interacting with co-workers and chatting at parties; yet we still feel disconnected and lonely. There’s a woman in my neighborhood I’ve never really connected with conversationally, although I’m very social, I can be shy at times and […]
We’re promised the pathway to peace if we can be here now, yet how do we get to now from here?
Happy Earth Day! It seems our Mother Earth is birthing lately with all of her earthquakes, eruptions, storms and shifts. Like the birth process, it can seem dark and scary, even messy at times. I like to remember that once that dark and mysterious process is over, a baby’s first breath is taken and there […]
I’m one of those people that thinks I’m pretty cool headed behind the wheel and yet I’ve been humbled a lot lately. While driving down a one lane street last week, a car came speeding up behind me while honking and flashing it’s lights, I thought “gee mister, take a chill pill we’re all in […]
1 in 3 people say they feel disconnected from the world around them. 1 in 3, think about that. We’ve got a million ways to connect yet we’re all feeling more disconnected than ever regardless of the many virtual devices available. So why all this loneliness? Have you noticed how little we actually “look” […]
We’ve reached a point in this world when things seem to be spinning out of control. Mother nature has a mind of her own and the media convinces us daily that our world is in ruin. Standing in the middle, as things around us drop away, or finding ourselves in the place of no […]
You meet one another, there seems to be chemistry, numbers have been exchanged and the air is alive with possibility. So what are the quickest ways to let the air out of your dating balloon? 1. Instead of planning a date, ask them “what do you want to do?” Come on, show some effort here. Be […]
As I write this, it’s thundering, raining and snowing here in Colorado all at the same time. I realize with a grin that once again my expectations of what’s normal are proven wrong by mother nature. So I’m inspired to ask the question: “Why can’t we drop our expectations and open ourselves up to […]
Beauty draws more beauty onto itself. They don’t tell us this when we’re teenagers pouring over Seventeen Magazine and longingly watching our friend’s older sisters dress as adults and wear make up. We grow up dressing our Barbie’s and later, experimenting with our mother’s make up and dousing ourselves with Love’s Baby Soft or Jennifer […]
Domestic Violence outside the obvious signs of physical abuse such as pushing, grabbing, and hitting can be subtle.
Problem getting your man to share? After he speaks count to 11 in your head slowly. 9 times out of 10 a man will start to speak again. It’s not that they don’t share with us; we often don’t give them a chance to finish their thoughts since we’re used to bantering with our girlfriends at a rapid pace.
I woke up this morning feeling sad yet had no reason I could think of to feel so down. Even after taking a yoga class to clear my head, I was left feeling even worse. I realized that sometimes emotions just run through us that have nothing to do with “today”. For me; I tapped […]
How many times are you thinking of someone and they call you? If you’re like me, often. Science has proven there is a field of energy between us that we can sense even when separated by great distance. What you think about others is felt and received on a primal level. If you think angry […]
We all know those people that drain our energy, love to complain, seem to be the constant victim, and have an overall negative impact on those around them. These are not the people I’m writing about. Many of you know I recently went through a major health scare. I had to sit and wonder if […]
It’s that time of year when we’re all acutely aware of breaking old habits from the past year and walking into the new one fresh and free. I love to utilize creative ways to break old thought patterns that keep me stuck in old habits. Self doubt and fear are what I wrestle with in […]
Do you see what I mean? There are gifts in what we’re now ready to walk away from and until we honor those gifts, they hold power over us. Much better to appreciate them and use them for the fertilizer they were meant to be in our life. Give thanks for it all.
I just saved an unusual mouse. Usually, I let my cats take care of problems like this, but both kept running between the bathroom and the couch where I was reading as if to say “come on mom, see what we have”. I got up and caught a glimpse of his small gray self as […]
WORD. How can this particular 4 letter example pack so much punch? Whether it’s a religious text, spiritual advice book, motivational seminar, or educational tool; all teach the same lesson: The power of the words we choose have a major effect on our lives. Combine our words, our partner’s words and the history of a […]